Why questions about life

The longitudinal study showed happiness depends on two things: "One is love," he wrote. If you have to think about this one, your work-life balance is probably askew. Blogging for Tiny Buddha Melissa Dinwiddie tells the great story of having a miserable time during her high school class's senior trip to the beach, all because of she forgot a T-shirt, was worried her stomach wasn't flat enough and sweated all day under a sweatshirt.

Meanwhile, a friend laughingly discovered she had forgotten to shave one of her legs and announced it to the entire bus. Her friend--who had a fantastic day in spite of her one hairy leg--proved that the people who have the most fun are comfortable in their own skin. Nearly one in five people has some kind of anxiety disorder, which is the most common mental illness in the U. If this is you, be honest and admit that 90 percent of what you worry about never comes to fruition.

The other benefit to removing fear and anxiety from your life: You'll appear more confident, a character trait that breeds success. Chances are, your mistakes taught you valuable lessons which strengthened your character. Take some inspiration from J. It gathers feedback that is constructive, anonymous, and accurate.

If you forego the and solicit feedback in person, make certain you ask for feedback that is specific, avoiding broad questions and generalizations. Do you ever get that nagging feeling that something is a little off in your life? This often happens when little behaviors creep up on you that violate your values. You can achieve more—and have more fun doing it—if you let yourself feel some of that pride and pleasure along the way. Scientists have theorized that it once took 1, years for the accumulated knowledge in the world to double; now it only takes a year or two.

Interested in habits and happiness. Sometimes we settle in dead-end jobs. Other times we settle for unhealthy relationships. From a survival perspective, fear has its purpose. But fear has a tendency to get carried away. Instead of keeping you safe, it keeps you from improving your life and living your dreams.

Have you ever been in a meeting and suddenly realized that not everyone was having the same conversation? Not because people were talking over each other, but because they had different ideas about the purpose of the discussion.

Everyone likes being looked up to, and it feels good to share our knowledge with others. If I had started before, my answers to life would have been different and that has everything to do with the time gone in between. But self development begins when we decide to move on.

Here are 30 life lessons I learned in my twenties after committing many errors. Because to let go we have to forgive someone. Often, we need to forgive ourselves to move forward, and that might not be as easy as it looks. To forgive is to believe. Sometimes I am scared to believe in goodness. But it is not important to always tell them that we were even upset. To be able to be on my own while being with the world. To produce art that further instills creativity and inspire people to live.

I do get puppeteered, sometimes, because I feel. As Daniel Gilbert wrote, feelings are what mattering means. If I feel this way, many others do, too. All I can do is to understand why I feel what I feel and how can I react in a more patient and logical and fair way to others.

I still have to learn a lot about emotions and how to manage them. Because staying stuck in a situation is easier than learning from the experience and coming out of the drama. My short-sightedness overpowers my drone view bringing misery to me and to the others around me. I should step aside from the scene and look at it objectively. It would be hard to watch the scene from a distance, but that is the only logical way to decide what is the best action.

I love prestige as much as I love pizza once in a while. On most days I love simple rice and dal with fish fry. I know humble work is the pivot but prestige is that break I look for in between.

Food is a sizzling pot of art. A good routine provides time to sleep, eat, care for ourselves physically and mentally, be with relevant people, make a living, do things that bring joy and hope the last two could be the same , and play.

Thus I can balance my physical, spiritual, mental, and earthly well-being every day. The order in which I do the daily activities matter, too. Going from the most important tasks to the least important has proven to be the most efficient. But it is best to not compare our routines with others as we all operate differently. I have a detailed article on creating a routine and other small daily habits to follow that have formed the basis of my daily life.

Some days I still count the number of hours I worked when all that matters is that I managed to write or even words. I think about the time spent watching informational videos when the intangible inspiration I absorbed from the videos far surpassed the tangible time.

Whether it is a creative routine or not, we all have our challenges. The trick is to take it day by day and being okay about not having a balance. Productivity is subjective and is measured differently in every field.

When I was a coder, my efficiency was assessed by a project duration. Now I see productivity as the number of articles I publish.

But if all the pieces are subpar, productivity is expensive. A theatre artist could measure her productivity by the number of plays she has done but also by how much she has learned by watching different plays or just by talking to people.

Productivity in creative tasks is not directly proportional to the tangible deliverables but to intangible learning. Having said that, a certain number of finished projects do seem to put that learning to use and show growth. Never fret, do your best. After all, art of learning is something, too. I set the wrong expectations. There is a thin line between pushing myself by setting higher goals and creating unrealistic demands.

I misjudge the time a job would take. Be realistic. Keep only one thing as the focus of the day and several small things that can be done if the first one is completed. Several small things can fill the day, too, so that other days are left for big chunks of crucial work.

Here I have shared a lot about creatine a healthy routine and here about trigger routine. Do read. Whatever works for you is the best. But most productive and successful people around the world say habit and routine are their best friends.

Personally, I can do better. A lot of us are trying hard. Are these people doing their best? Humans have learned to achieve by watching others around them. It is up to me to use that jealousy positively. The one who sells herself gets sold. This race to prestige and stardom will never stop. Society promises to support us in exchange for our compliance with its ever-expanding collectivist rules.

Mostly we are in violation of at least one of these rules, and the society stands there judging us and not helping us. Or we put our head down and follow all its rules to the point when we lose our individuality.

I would call society a crowd that expects you to follow it no matter what. And the only good you can do to yourself is to not walk behind society. Find your idiosyncratic hinges in society and hold onto them. Do watch this video by Naseeruddin Shah words of Osho. The serendipity in the universe feels magical, but I do not believe in a god represented by the religions. I do believe in the sublime power of the universe and the self, and they are my guides.

We are in eternal haste. The end result is supposed to make us feel fulfilled. In our memories that fulfillment is so prominent from past experiences, from cravings for prestige that we want to rush through the process. But fulfillment is only any good when we have given the process its due time to produce the best result we can.

And when we are devoted to something, the end would only lead to another beginning. There is a thin line here between being slow because of laziness or due to going through the process diligently. Manage Your Day to Day by 99U. We would be lost. Let life flow , but you should be aware of the direction of the wind. Survival can make us do anything. By knowing them. By accepting them. When I understand them more, I judge them less.

We all believe that we are right because our opinions and values help us draw our little selves on the larger frame of the world. Without opinions, we would be lost. So we hold onto our beliefs dearly. We should fear to be wrong and to represent false values if we wish for anything more than a stunted growth. In short, having no opinion is better than faking it.

Since childhood, I have been working to achieve something or the other. I was judged on my test results and not valued on how well I played badminton or how much I giggled or how sensitive I was and that I maintained a diary full of poems.

It is only obvious that I started thinking of deliverables and achievements as valuable benchmarks and core life values. I am trying to work only for joy now and also prioritizing play.