Why attractive men are single

There are many singles that are jealous that you have been married for 20yrs. Maybe the marriage just needs a tune up and then you can enjoy it to the fullest. No need to be disrespectful with the fact that you obviously disagree.

How about you shed some light about how this is wrong. Hopefully he comes back to elaborate on what is so wrong about this post. That Gucci bag is a knock off. Hit the nail on the head.

I have to say that 8 and 11 contradict what you are saying. I feel you but that is one of the points I am trying to make. When in reality the reason why these men are still available is because of one of the 12 reasons in my opinion.

The same way that some men are not open about their desire to have multiple women. I hope you get where I am coming from, I know next time I have to do a better job of expressing this in the post itself. I agree with a lot of what you said here. Thanks T-Mac and you are correct about the sex issue.

Remove sex from the equation and there would be a lot less pointless relationships going on. Nice article! Been there! I would also like 2 add that the timing could hv been wrong 4 the 2.

I definitely agree with that. This is fodder for chicken-heads, no disrespect. They can keep that for the suckers. And put them in their place? That sounds like more childish drama. Is it fair to say the woman is shallow because one of these traits turn her off to that man?

Also did you read all 12 reasons, because I know some people are put off by the first 6 but then they become more receptive when the read the last 6. I also like you last statement and can not disagree with it. They picked losers because they are losers.

No complaint they had about me holds water. Look at how high the divorce rate is and how miserable most women in the US are. American is second on the worst nationality of partners list. Many women feel the need to play the field before they settle down. Either way, I hope whoever has actually read this far, has gained somewhat of a new perspective.

Cheers to Stella Artois! Time for me to step off my soap box and into my bed…. The reality is, almost anything on this list, or on the ladies list can apply to people of the opposite sex as well. Most women prefer the stability of a relationship. I personally think you are just a bitter seudo-feminist who wants to act like a man and get treated like a princess. It would behoove you to pull that stick out of your ass…and maybe buy a dictionary. Especially when you have no idea who the hell this person is.

Get a life. Men are single because they want to be, point blank period…. Nobody wants a wife anymore just something to screw until they get tired. To hell with a wife, give me a year round football season, government funded strip clubs, and a ps3. Women tend to seek responsibility and Social Status, men tend to seek the barely minumum responsibility required to attract women. Seriously, not everyone wants to die old and ragged also. Yes I agree with Biga Not everyone wants to play the shitty and tiring games of love, if it had only given them depression and suffering.

Big difference. Like we are under attack or world population. More fuck boys and Sluts meaning more diseases and more death. I feel there are good men and sometimes the good men dont realize they are. Some are pigs too yes I know one.

He plays many women and also wants one by his side on his bed and then wants more from somewhere else while his woman is working.. That is so wrong if men want to play do it by yourself..

Your not getting anywhere but giving yourself a bad rep… Im a good woman and I do respect. Sweet Girl , then why do women allow themself to be played? In reality they know for the most part that they are. I see this all the time. With some women even being blamed for getting rapedl. Stop blaming every fucking thing on women, i think we deal with enough without having that added on top. Men are responsible for themselves. If they want to screw around, fine but dont get a girlfriend and tell the women beforehand, clearly, their intentions.

You know how women can take one look at another woman and tell that woman is no good, home wrecking, bad person, etc. We guys can do the same too with other guys, and for some of us more experienced guys, we can do the same for women.

That guy who just swept you off your feet and is close to infalliable in your eyes because of his money, pecs, personality, whatever. We can sit back and usually see right through it to the heart of the man, and we know you are going to get played. When women keep incentivizing bad behaviour they push rest of men to that behaviour.

Dude I am a good man, but I dont need a woman right now. Yes I would love to have sex, but with the way people view sex in this world forget about that. Sex is not important, and neither are relationships. I also believe this is somebody who is denouncing their own personality, and trying to project this onto other people. I do have confidence to ask any girl out, but I choose not too because I have my priorities.

Second most chick I talk to have a dude they want to be loyal with, or also have priorities. Im not looking to fuck with anyone. I dont see the point. Yeah Im a 20 yr old virgin, but I have my reasons. Listen there is one of your top 6 I can adhere too, but their is an exception to that rule.

So Im covered there. I lack ambition because I dont see myself trying to be with every cute face I see. I see myself being with who I want to be with. I lack ambition with any girl that isnt feeling me. This article originally appeared on xoJane. I saw first-hand from an early age the power of an attractive man. I am not a shallow person. Going out with a really good looking guy is a lot like that. Even the people closest to you, who usually tell you what an amazing and beautiful girl you are, will frequently remind you just how lucky you are to go out with someone so handsome.

And I guess it helps that I know where his vanity comes from. Already a subscriber? Log in or link your magazine subscription. Account Profile. I have heard that things happen when we are not looking. How can a person want something but yet not be looking? Regards Marty. Because no men are interested in women my age 50s. Definitely all by their 40s. Men were not interested in me even when I was in my 20s. It has taken me 30 some years to get to be ok with my station in life.

Life dealt me these cards. I am ok finally with my lot. They are not saying that there are not people that do stay single for their religion…. I hate it when people defend Christianity without even reading the bible. If anyone actually read the bible as I did they would no longer be Christian like me. Words taken right out of my mouth! You nailed it. I wish I could have back the time I spent on dead-end dating when my children were little my husband left me when my little ones were 3 years, 9 and I have spent years working to put them through college and now have nice home and a vacation home.

Men I dated wanted me to change my life for them.. They were looking at my income, homes, family life, profession and how they could move right in and have me help support them. All of them had previous marriages where the wife did not work and they were paying large sums of alimony and child support.

I find it amazing how men see professional women as financial assets before considering them as human beings. Men come to hate about you what drew them to you in the first place. Still, would love to be able to have a cool girlfriend without getting stupid and too involved again, which would cause me to lose myself again. Jack: I am a 60 year old lady, 8 years divorced. Lost my true self in 28 years of marriage, family, and so on.

I totally agree with you. I do feel lonely. Friends say it is such a waste for me to be alone. In the 8 years, I have taken the time to discover the real me and I enjoy my freedom of being single. I am not sure if I can handle a relationship or breakup again.

I am not sure if it a new relationship is worth the trouble at my age. I feel just like you. What about a child? Single parents often find themselves very isolated…. And not every potential partner understands the demands of a single parent or a person who is a carer for an aging parent or perhaps disabled sibling or even a disabled spouse. Life can be very complicated. One of the reasons to go to college is so you can get a job that pays well enough to supply your food and shelter needs.

Some people without an education have to work multiple jobs to barely scrape by. This leaves them exhausted and lacking time to nurture a relationship as well. At least when someone gets a degree, they may finally have more time for a relationship after getting a job in their field of study. This response was exactly what I was looking for! I struggle with being single at my age while refusing to accept the choice that I have made. Earning my PhD is simply more important to me than marriage.

Thanks for your comment! It makes me feel so much better. Please reread the Bible. I look after an aged parent; my mum. What women wants go out with a guy who looks after and lives with his mum?! I lived 14 years away from my mum and when circumstances forced me to go back and look after I intended it would be for about 2 years however circumstances for varies reasons made feel obliged to stay.

I certainly did not want to! Also my parents divorced when I was My father remarried and divorced again my brother married a divorcee and divorced. My best female friend at the moment is my dog. Yet at the end of the day your furry canine friend is the most well-behaved and loyal being on the planet.

My ex was obsessed with her dog. She liked dogs more then people it was a major scapegoat she used to keep herself from dealing with reality and facing problems. Excellent post.. I scraped together some money and bought a rain forest in Costa Rica that was under attack by loggers. I created an animal preserve, got my Ph.

It would take quite the man who would want to tromp through a jungle with me. My priority is making the world a better place. As I posted earlier, I have learned that the things that drew men to me initially, my projects, profession, wonderful sons, beautiful homes, financial security was what they came to hate about me.

They all wanted me to change, give up what I had built and stay home to cook and clean for them. No gracias.. Hi Al, I think a decent and kind woman would be fine with it, especially if she likes her own space.

I went through taking care of a family member and lost my gf because of it. People dont like that. They want everything but that. People said the same thing to me. Its a lie. I did not know all this about myself but it makes so much sense, and I feel empowered with the knowledge.

However, now what? I need part II. I want a do over! Now, not many available men my age, in these neck of the woods, who are interested in someone my age, and the kids are a long gone dream.

But, sigh, what could have been. I learned more about myself from this one article than countless sessions from a couple of unhelpful therapists. Firestone is going to expand on a lot of the ideas she mentions in this article.

Love is ageless Yvette. Be careful what you wish for and passionate about what you already possess and you will shine for all to witness! Be well and never give up! M…Well,what about Gods timing in your life? I never read in the Bible that true love has a certain age. My one teacher got married at And yes,read of so many who got married first time over 50 and older.

Is that perhaps His timing? I hope so for me. And, for you. I will say a prayer about us. I wanted the divorce. Who knows. Yikes Gods time makes sense. At 42 I have lost all interest in men except as friends. If God had wanted me to marry, he would have sent someone when I was 22 and actually wanted to be married. That would be locking the barn door after the horse was dead. I get social needs met from friends, family of origin, and my church.

As for other needs, I wonder if I even have them anymore. I have a guy who is pursuing me from 6 years!!! And a guy I know from a year who I have a huge crush love??? Too scary even to admit … but he might be dating someone , we also have electrifying chemistry!!!

Oh and my best friend of ten years and me are very attached to each other in a way that resulted in our breakups with our respective partners few years ago. I must be a case study. The number that hit me like a bring was going home watching your show. Not putting yourself out there. I can really see i need to make an effort to put myself out there alot more. No blaming other things, building the walls. When asked about it i respond, there is to mush there to tear down.

Instead i need to be honest with myself and figure it out. First article that has hit home so hard. Thank You. My grandfathers 68 and recently married after 26 years of being alone. Also my father 58 is engaged after 12 years alone.. Point is its never to late to find someone who makes you happy.

Honestly I trully feel that people should marry have kids and be at that family point of life in their 40s or later.. They think they know what they want, until it proves to be a false hope. Love patience understanding all come with age. Men in many cases are still dogs, they search for pussy and are fulfilled once its found for a minute the divorce rate is so high because of men claiming love to get laid, followed by child, marriage, loss of attraction both physical and mental , degeneration of communication and therefore trust.

And finally divorce. After sharing so much and the jading on both sides continue because regardless of all of it they are linked by their child.. They wonder how to open up again.. Hence this article on reasons, fear is the biggest.. Spend it on new friends, if your lucky that one friend who stands to you may share the attraction and from that base you forge a new relationship. But the classic saying still stands. Good friends are hard to find. I believe we get to know ourselves and figure out what brings us joy.

When we get into friendships and relationships, we can then specifically ask for what we need and desire. And, of course, listen to others and give back to them as well. No real original thought here and it seems more like propaganda for mon-hog-ami!

Fear for even a slight criticism. I did many different jobs due to the same reason. Because I was not able to bear it. A single word, Look, Reaction makes me run away and it makes a disaster for me and my employer too. I am very innovative and yes… very smart employee and they all knew it.

Demanding unlimited love and affection. Though i know its very bad idea. Love cannot be earned. Being romantic. Of cause romantic people tend to break easily once they feel and see other person is not romantic as he is. Diplomacy works better than romance. Romantic men are very sharp and sensitive from inside despite of how they look logical and smart when they walk alone in the street. If you are too enthusiastic and imaginative, be careful as your mind is fertile.

No matter how much you love her. For a beginner, it may be too advanced. But its worth reading. I am 36 and never had a girlfriend. I am not gay Just the thought of finding someone, to settle down, to have a family never crosses my mind.

I never see a need to. I like your comment Dan very true. I was married for over 40 years and got divorced last year. I now moved and started a new life in a different area. Joined local activities and clubs which I go to most days. My well being and mental health as improved and I feel 20 years younger. You must life your life the way you think fit not everyone wants to subscribe to main-stream views and lifestyles.

Good luck with your life good health and happiness. I hate how society tries to mold people into stereotypes. I love women but I also like having my own space. Personally, I find it difficult to relate to most people in general. I want to remain single because i have been cheated plus i am a religious guy.. And nowadays no girl is religious , they are just immature who love to booze and sleeping around before marriage.

And i am virgin and celibate. Yep, typical Indian male mentality mindset. You just want a perfect girl naari to drop on to your lap without moving a muscle. Dating is not for insecure men. And for some people love means something else, like their career, and till the end they are just happy that way.

So what now? The question is what can I do to change and how? Well i certainly do blame God for my singleness, and i never asked for God to put me on this rotten earth to begin with.

Loneliness is no fun at all, and when your friends are settled down with their own life which makes it worse for us. I have the same view but about men.

My ex husband alcoholic gambler. My first expartner dumped me for a younger one and left me with his debts to pay. That one truly broke my heart. My second and last ex partner abused me verbally and physically. He stole things from me when leaving. Feeling lonely? Risk again? I understand how you feel, Just remember looks are the number one reason people become attracted to each other, next of course is money, so if you have a college degree and a great paying job you will never be lonely again, most women are looking for these factors, in addition go to the gym and get in great shape, all these things will increase your chances of some woman liking you, It is considered a trade off, you get what you want and they get what they want.

Hang in there, life is not fair and it is not our fault that god allows some people to be blessed with looks and others to be ugly. It is about time that someone admitted that looks initially causes someone to be attracted to someone else. When one person first meets another it is impossible for them to be attracted by personality, only looks.

If you are ugly like myself, especially as a woman, then you will remain single in spite of wanting to be in a relationship. I totally understand how u feel. Ive been there. My vice was binge eating. Thats how i coped with all my anxiety and depression. Ive been see o ng a therapist for 3 years, and she has helped me from hell and back twice. Im now making an effort to live a healthy lifestyle mentally, and physically.

We are our worst enemy. Start journaling to let your anger out. Now i have less anger d y e to journaling and 2 mile walks everyday. I feel at peace with myself and finally value my life.

Hang in there you will get it, just talk to your doctor and be honest towards yourself. I had to let some people know how i felt, it wasnt easy but you will get the courage to eliminate whats toxic in your life. If you lack a social group that can fix you up — as most singles do — then you have to consider other options. Most of my friends come from college.

That never happens. Like I said, there has to be a context. Yes i go out because i have to go out to work, i meet different people in that area because i work as a tax collector and a cashier.

I have now been alone for 36 years. Because I want to be. I was married before plus in relationships but I much rather cook if I feel like it, eat what and when I want, sit at the computer all day if I want and not have to pry the TV remote from a mans fingers to watch a program that I like! I get the recliner or the couch, I get to sleep in the middle of the bed and I can leave my pajamas on all day if I want.

And the best part is not having to listen to anyone soul talking about themselves all day long. I am a 34 year old single guy. I am East Indian. I think my culture has a lot to do with why I am single. I am particularly attracted to white women blond hair, blue eyes, or black hair, brown eyes. I am not attracted to black women unless they have that mulatto look like Zoe Saldana. Sorry, no offense to black women. I guess beauty is skin deep. I also live in a small town where there are few single women.

To me, a single woman who has children represents extra baggage in a relationship. I guess I am a bit picky on the type of partner I desire. Since I am well educated, I would like a woman who is also well-educated university material.

To me, children behave and are raised better, when the mother is well educated and emphasizes learning in the home. I have three university degrees and I have a wonderful job that pays me very well. With what I earn, I have been able to travel to many different countries that many of my colleagues have not been able to and I have been thankful to God for everything he has given me.

I have also tried to be more proactive and get involved with different things in my community. I am also planning to join karate and do some boxing and so meet more people in the community that I would not normally meet. I have sent many messages to at least 50 women and I got two emails back. I think it is only common courtesy for these women to reply back after you have emailed them.

If they are not interested in your profile, they should at least type a one-liner and let you know. Sometimes this really gets me down, I feel frustrated and need to vent to someone. Also afraid to talk to my parents, as they are a bit judgemental. Looking for any further suggestions as I would really like to settle down and be a happily married man in a long term relationship. You seem like a good man…like a lot of the good men out there that are still single. I am going to tell you something that most here or anywhere do not want to admit.

That is, some people are just not meant to have a partner. It is like the animal kingdom were the alpha animals get the females. Women are driven by a natural desire to be with the alpha males. Fact of the matter is this…if you are not looking for a plain looking, chubby woman, you are not ever going to get married. I am not trying to be mean…just stating the truth. I too am educated, financially set one blessing from very little dating or women in my life , pleasant personality, and every girls best friend at work.

However, I always get turned down on dates from single woman whether they be from work, grocery store, online, etc because I am not good looking, somewhat chubby, and balding.

I am 35 and have just about thrown in the towel on ever finding love. I find that single woman my age are even more disgruntled about being single than I am. Most I meet have also given up and prefer to just be single in their comfort zone. I am about there myself. Also, I am less motivated to find someone as I get older because just as I am getting more unattractive with age, so are all the middle aged women. I am just less attracted to them and refuse to be with someone I am not attracted to.

So, with that said, I cannot be bitter about the fact that women are not attracted to me. That is life my friend. I find comfort in everything else I have accomplished and truly feel that you have to make peace with the situation and focus instead on the positive aspects of your life. I have a lot to be happy about. I am very lucky in many other ways. I thank God for that. I recently got a boxer dog and she is a great companion.

She loves me unconditionally, wants to hang out with me, waits by the door for me to come home when I am out of the house, and cannot access my bank account. I retire from the military in 4 years, have saved since the age of 16 and have started construction on my dream home.

Once retired age 40 , I will spend the rest of my life indulging in my hobbies. It would be nice to have a women to share it all with, but I move forward happy…regardless.